A friend of mine had her friend’s wedding last weekend. She was absolutely heartsick and couldn’t contain her happiness. She said that it was the best day of her life.
It actually was my best friend’s wedding, to be honest. I’ve always thought of weddings as a bit of an unpleasant chore. There’s a good chance that you feel this way when you’re under the gun for wedding planning. My friend is one hundred percent down for the wedding. And this wedding, it doesn’t look like it will disappoint.
As a matter of fact, she’ll probably choose to get married again this year. She mentioned to me one day that she has talked to some friends of hers who have done just that. Her friends all live far apart but, even if they never met, they are in love and intend to spend the rest of their lives together. They all chose to marry the people they loved and the same will be true of yours.
When my friend’s wedding came around, I knew that it would be difficult. But I also knew that it wouldn’t be impossible. So I decided to do what I could so that I could at least help out where I could. What I learned from my best friend’s wedding planning is that the key to a great wedding is planning early. This goes for your wedding, whether it’s your friend’s wedding or someone else’s.
First, you need to decide what style of wedding you want. Are you going to have a formal affair or a more laid back affair? This all goes into the invitations. If you send out regular invites, then your friends know exactly what to expect. If you send out “just for fun” invites, then you’ve got something in store for them.
Next, it’s time to find venues. A lot of friends get married in their hometown so that their guests can easily find them. If you’re having a wedding in another state or even country, it may be a good idea to set up an event space near your home so that guests can easily drop by for the day.
Now that everything’s settled, it’s time to actually start planning the event. I always let my best friend plan her wedding because she’s the one who knows how much effort and work goes into planning a wedding. She can tell me everything from when to have drinks at the reception to whether she should get flowers with an over-the-top dress.
The most important thing about planning a wedding is taking time to talk with your best friend. This is probably the most difficult part. Sometimes it’s hard to even talk about topics like bridal gowns or what kind of cake to have at the reception. But in the end, if you two can sit down together and talk about all the details of your wedding, then you’ll feel better. You’ll also make a strong friendship through the process of wedding planning.
While it’s sometimes difficult to spend time with our best friends while they’re getting married, it’s critical that you do. Ask your friend questions about what she’s planning to wear and where she’s planning to have the reception. If she hasn’t planned to buy flowers or hire a caterer yet, ask her if she’s free for the weekend to get those things done. Chances are, if your friend has been planning her wedding for a while, she’ll have a lot to do on the day of the event. Spending time with her will help her to relax before the big day.
Once you’ve arranged to spend time with your friend during her wedding, you can go over ideas for the guestbook or invitations. If you have any extra money to spend on things, you can even have your best friend’s wedding recorded so that you can watch the wedding and reception DVD together. This will be especially helpful if you can’t make it to the event.
My best friend’s wedding was held at her home, which is why I got invited. However, if yours is a church wedding, then you might consider having it at a location other than your friend’s home. You want to take into consideration the fact that your friend will have guests arriving at different times, especially if it’s going to be more than one wedding. Be sure to plan accordingly.
Planning a friend’s wedding can be very stressful, but you’ll find that the preparations are worth it when your friend’s special day comes. And since you two already know each other, there won’t be many surprises. In fact, the wedding itself should be quite easy to plan.